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By Tana Marie
New Beginnings, Endings & Life Somewhere in the Middle
Happy Valentine’s Day, Happy President’s Day, Happy
Birthday, Happy Anniversary… there, I think I’ve included them all…
forgive me if I missed any.
Isn’t it interesting that mere hours after New Year’s it isn’t PC to
wish someone a Happy New Year anymore? We’ve become so
uber-future-focused that any monumental event, occurring even a week
ago, seems like ancient history; yet something that hurt, betrayed,
dishonored, or otherwise devastated us, even if it was decades ago,
seems to be alive and well in our present reality.
Notice how fast the marvelous feeling of an incredible vacation
dissipates once we get “back to reality?” Seems as if the day after you
get home, the vacation fades into “were we really there?” It only comes
alive again when we recount it to our family and friends, show the
pictures, movies, and “relive” the adventure. (*Remember this point,
because it is one of the keys to creating and sustaining the life, love
and future you really want. More on that in a bit.)
We’re standing at a great threshold offering a fabulous opportunity;
looming before us is another new beginning - a time to examine your
loves, life, goals, dreams by taking inventory of the things that no
longer serve you. This can be a magically powerful, forward-propelling
time, or just a mundane turn of the calendar page. This can be the year
you’ve been waiting for all your life, or one in which you just put one
foot in front of the other, hoping it’s better than last year. It’s
YOUR choice.
So what makes NOW so different than any other time? Well friends, we’ve
entered a year of endings, completions, and wrapping-up old business.
We’re ending the old worn out ways of doing things, habits and patterns
we began almost a decade ago and getting ready for new, wonderful
experiences, beliefs and manifestations. If you’re holding on to
anything you’ve outgrown, either mentally, physically, spiritually or
emotionally, the Universe will make you painfully aware that it is no
longer in your Highest and Greatest Good to keep it.
The second element that makes this such a significant time is YOU –
your triumphs, challenges, hopes, fears and dreams.
Are you happy with the way your life is going, or would you like things
to be different? And not just different, but different… how? I’m
certainly NOT speaking of any sort of delayed New Year’s Resolution –
exhaustive studies have proven time and time aging that they just don’t
work - so we’re not going there. We’re going to a place where ALL your
dreams can come true, a place that already exists – within you. As in
the movie, The Wizard of Oz, Dorothy always had the power to get back
home; all she needed to do was realize she had that power.
Yes, I know… I can hear you saying, “but Tana Marie…” Fear not dear
friends, I’m here to help you along the path to your dreams. So here’s
what you can do in this amazing clearing-out time.
#1 – Examine your life and decide, (as objectively as possible), what
you want to get rid of. If it is a person or situation that you can’t
immediately unhook from, then plan your “Exit Strategy” with a definite
“Drop Dead Date” and work your plan every day.
#2 – Decide what kind of life you REALLY want and write it down, in
detail. Now here’s the kicker – FOCUS ONLY ON WHAT YOU WANT – NOT ON
WHAT YOU DON’T WANT!!
People are always telling me they’re unhappy about this or disappointed
in that, or how horrible he is, or why they hate that… and guess what,
they keep getting what they DON’T want because they’re focusing on it.
Remember, “What you focus on expands”, or you get MORE of the nasty
stuff you don’t want, because you’re focusing on it! So STOP it!!
Begin, right now, to FOCUS ONLY ON WHAT YOU WANT – NOT WHAT YOU DON’T
WANT!! (It’s an easy concept, but not always easy to consistently put
into practice, so be patient and treat yourself kindly.)
#3 – Don’t worry about HOW it will happen, just trust that the Universe
is big enough to deliver what you want, and usually will do so quickly
once you get out of the way. Keep focused on the END RESULT, keep
eliminating anything that is not in alignment with your goals and
dreams, and do something every day that supports them. Your job is the
WHAT; the Universe will manage the HOW.
#4 – Be grateful for all the gifts, adventures and manifestations you
already have in your life. Gratitude is the Great Provider – being
honestly grateful for what you already have allows more goodies to flow
in. I promise!!
• Here’s a little poem I received via email that I thot was
appropriate. I don’t know who wrote it.
Dear God:
I want to thank you for what you have already done!
I am not going to wait until I see results or receive rewards;
I am thanking you right now.
I am not going to wait until I feel better or things look better;
I am thanking you right now.
I am not going to wait until people say they are sorry or until they
stop talking about me;
I am thanking you right now.
I am not going to wait until the pain in my body disappears;
I am thanking you right now.
I am not going to wait until my financial situation improves;
I am thanking you right now.
I am not going to wait until the children are asleep and the house is
quiet;
I am thanking you right now.
I am not going to wait until I get promoted at work or until I get the
job;
I am thanking you right now.
I am not going to wait until I understand every experience in my life
that has caused me pain or grief;
I am thanking you right now.
I am not going to wait until the journey gets easier or the challenges
are removed;
I am thanking you right now.
I am thanking you because I have the ability and the opportunity to do
more and do better.
AND… I am thanking you because I am alive.
• For those of you who would like more love, more joy, financial
abundance, here’s some food for thought:
“The future is not some place we are going, but one we are creating.
The paths are not to be found, but made. And the activity of making
them changes both the maker and their destination.”
-- John Schaar, a sociologist and professor emeritus at the University
of CA, Santa Cruz
“Let's say that you are anticipating a year down the road.
You are anticipating that you'll be joyful.
You are anticipating that you'll be healthy.
You are anticipating that you'll be prosperous.
There is a wonderful thing that happens when you project into your
future experience because you send a rocket that the Universe actually
actualizes around...”
-- Abraham-Hicks.com - Chicago 9/20/03
“You must have the consciousness for that which is desired. Without
the consciousness, it cannot come to you. With the consciousness, it
must come.”
-- John Randolph Price, The Success Book
Some of you may be wondering why I didn’t do my column this month on
Valentine’s Day specifically. I thot it was a better idea to help you
create Valentine’s Day 365 days a year, that’s why I focused on
creating the WHOLE DREAM, not just one piece of it.
But to keep all of you happy, here are some of my past V-Day Romance
Columns and Love Tips for your enjoyment.
Past Romance Columns about Valentine’s Day:
Heart of the Matter:
http://www.passionisland.us/romance_column_feb06.php
Love Isn’t JUST About Valentine’s Day:
http://www.passionisland.us/romance_column_feb.php
Keeping Passion Alive:
http://www.passionisland.us/romance_column_feb03.php
Past Love Tips about Valentine’s Day:
http://www.passionisland.us/love_tips_47.php
http://www.passionisland.us/love_tips_53.php
http://www.passionisland.us/love_tips_56.php
http://www.passionisland.us/love_tips_57.php
http://www.passionisland.us/love_tips_58.php
Here’s a great article I’d like to share with you by Paul Falzone:
Be Bold on Valentine's Day: Tips for the Romantically Challenged
For many folks who are dating or in a relationship, Valentine’s Day
becomes a day of reckoning. What you do, or don’t do, will certainly be
remembered. Here is your chance to make your feelings known to that
special someone you are dating. For those already involved in a
relationship, it’s an opportunity to make your good relationship even
better, or improve upon a “rocky” relationship.
“What it all boils down to is being bold. Express yourself, show your
feelings, and go out on a limb for that special person in your life.
Actions speak louder than words, so find a way to show him or her you
care; you’re interested; you’re there,” explained Falzone.
Listen and pay attention. As Falzone reminds, “We all have two ears and
one mouth. It’s important to use them in that order.” Listen to your
significant other. Whether s/he is talking about the workday or her/his
dreams, show that you’re interested. Make her/him feel important,
because, bottom line, they are important to you.
Go out of your way. This may sound simple, but it’s not easy for some
folks to completely put their needs and wants aside. Take the time and
make the extra effort to do what your significant other likes. Go out
of your way to cook her/his favorite spicy Indian dish. Does she have a
favorite color? If so, find a cashmere sweater in that shade. If your
honey loves golf and you notice his golf club grips are worn out, make
the effort and go to golf pro to see what you can do about it.
Come to her/his rescue. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. If
your strength is her/his weakness, then help your sweetheart out. Is
she technologically challenged? Install that new photo software for
her; set up her iPod, computer, DVD player or other electronic. Take
the time to make your significant other’s life simpler. And, if you
can’t do it, find someone who can. Either way, your mission to help is
accomplished.
Creativity and personalization is key. This goes back to the first
point, listening to your significant other. Since you have paid
attention, you now know what s/he likes. Use this information to give
her/him a gift that really says, “you’re special to me”. Download his
favorite songs. Stand in line to get great seats to see her favorite
music group, play or show. Give him sporting event tickets and tell him
to go out with his buddies. Arrange for flowers to be sent to her or a
masseuse to give a massage every month for 12 months. If you’re an
artist, paint your significant other a picture. A poet, write a love
poem.
The list goes on and on. You'll find there are many things you can do
to give a gift with the personal touch that will really make her/his
Valentine’s Day. “Do something original. Cater to the unique desires of
your loved one. Whatever you can do to be creative and personalize the
day, do it. Valentine’s Day is a time when it’s not about you at all.
It should completely revolve around your sweetheart.”
By Paul A. Falzone, CEO of eLove, The Right One and Together Dating
Have a Happy, Loving Valentine’s Day. Remember to celebrate every day,
because every day we have the chance to begin again and make it even
better!
Blessings,
Tana Marie
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Dream Creation
Surviving the Holidays
Happily Ever After Or If Only I Were Wealthy...
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Creating The Love Of Your Life
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Shell Game vs. The Search for Essence
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Finding Your Soulmate
Crazymaking In Communication
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Put Your Past Behind You
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